A New Year, A New Leaf
As we
head into a new year, we often talk about making resolutions and starting new
habits. We look at the new calendar as our golden opportunity to make a new
start – and if we miss this one, we can take advantage of other chances the
calendar provides: the Chinese new year, and the first day of spring, then the
first day of school, then the holidays, and suddenly we’re back to the New year
and we might not have actually made that new thing a habit.
Maybe
the change shouldn’t be about something that will likely be discarded by
Valentine’s Day.
What
if instead, on New Year’s Day, we just decided to look at things differently?
We
often use the phrase ‘turning over a new leaf’ to describe doing something new.
When I hear it, I think about flipping the page of a book – turning a new leaf
to a blank page where we can write our new story, and we think we can be
something or someone new. What we forget is that we’re still writing in the
same book; it’s the same story that we’re continuing. Maybe we take it in a new
direction, but it’s still the same story.
Turning
over a new leaf might actually be about looking at things differently.
I also
think about tree leaves – especially in the summer, when the leaves turn to
face the storm that’s coming. It’s still a leaf, no matter what direction it’s
facing, but now we see it differently, and we learn something from seeing this
different perspective – whether it be that rain is coming or something deeper.
Imagine
if we did this with other people too – learning from their stories, their
experiences, their reactions. What are they teaching us from their perspective?
Can we learn something about the world and ourselves when we look at it from
the other side? What new story might we write?
In the
coming year, I invite you to not make resolutions, or make promises to yourself
that you may not be able or inclined to keep. Instead, I invite you to turn
over a new leaf, listen to different perspectives, hear the stories of others –
and yourself – in different ways. When we do this, we connect with more
compassion, grace, and inclusiveness.
Let
this be our year to turn over a new leaf.
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